They Can Drive You NUTS!

We all have that certain type of person that sets us off, you know the kind, the one we find yourself in relationship with over and over again, and when the relationship starts to falter we ask ourselves, "How do I get myself into these messes? I should know better by now."

When we don't "see" certain behaviors, we walk right into them time and time again. It's like being emotionally blindfolded, feeling our way through life. After a while we are exhausted from trying to figure it all out. In some cases we can become deeply wounded, and too gun shy to venture into any other new relationships.

Let's start this weeks discussion by identifying the type of personality that is hardest for each of us to handle. Is it people who are...

* Blatantly opinionated
* Too laid back
* Overly talkative
* Too proper
* Hard to please (picky)
* Wishy-washy
* Scatterbrained
* All up in your business
Or _______________ (you fill in the blank)

I'll tell you my hardest person to deal with - The silent planners. Being a Playful Sanguine, I think out loud. For some reason my brain thinks clearer when my ears are part of the process, so my thoughts come out my mouth and into my ears before I know I have thought the thought. Now the silent planners in my life assume I think like them, that I have worked it all out long before I share my ideas and plans with others, like they do, but I don't. They become frustrated with me, thinking I'm wishy-washy or that I keep changing my mind, only I haven't even made up my mind yet to change it.

Can you see the relationship problem coming? Well, I didn't until I stop to analyse the repeat patterns. Now I know, I must get my ducks in a row before I share my exciting plans and ideas with my silent planner friends (and family).

So, what kind of person is hard for you to get along with? (Be honest, but kind. Please do not mention names.)

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Personality Information - Principle #1

I'm sure almost everyone has taken a personality temperament profile these days - DiSC, MBTI, Enneagram, The Personalities, or others, the list is long! But, does that information, or "label" really help us live better lives? Do we understand ourselves any better? Do we understand others any better? The sad answer to that is - NO. It's not until we apply this information, that we start seeing the benefit of doing those painful self discovery tests. Over the past ten years of administering these profiles, I have watched people squirm and complain when having to answer the behavior revealing questions. It is painful to be honest about our strengths and weakness. We can't change a behavior until we see it, and if nothing changes - NOTHING changes!

Over time I will be listing the steps or principles that will help make the process of applying this information more powerful and rewarding.

Enjoy!
Kathryn

Personality Principle # 1
You Are Here - Finding your bearings.

Completing the Personality Profile may seem like taking a test, but it's a tool that will help you find a starting point. Think of it like going to the shopping mall.

First, you need to decide to go to the mall (in need of something: information, guidance, hope). Park and walk in (do the profile). Now if you don't know exactly where you are, you might wander round in circles. A helpful thing to do is look for the directory board and find the "You Are Here" sticker (add up your totals).

Once you figure out where "You Are Here" is, you now can make a Personality Plan for getting from where you are to where you want to be. You may find you're on the wrong end of the mall (living in weaknesses), which means it will take a little more time to get where you want to go (living in strengths).

The journey may be long or short, but at least you're not aimlessly walking in circles any more. What you want to become is an individual who is living in his or her strengths, instead of being trapped in weaknesses.

In the journey of discovering your identity, you can use the tools of understanding personality traits to overcome natural tendencies and find freedom to live in your strengths.

Yes, "You Are Here." But, here is not where you will want to stay. Apply the Personality Principles and enjoy living in your strengths!

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